I went with Linestrider -- it's a deck that doesn't necessarily pull its punches, but also doesn't shout in your face if it doesn't have to, and I thought that was the best energy for your question. To start with, a card fell out while I was shuffling, and while I didn't get the feeling it suited for either side of this equation, I always treat that as significant. In this case, it was the Five of Cups, which signifies regret and loss, but also a need to focus on the positive and what you still have over what you've lost. It's easy to focus on the things that hurt you, or that you've lost, but that can mean ignoring things that need your focus or your nurture in order to grow. Paying attention to what's there does much more for you in the long run.
Keep:Knight of Swords. There's a few ways this could go, especially in re: parents, considering the Knights often stand in as an adolescent/young adult phase; but whatever those things are, they are heavily logic-based rather than creative- or emotion-based. Are there things that you find they actually help you with when you talk it out with them? Because if so, this might be telling you that you can still go to them for those conversations. Alternately, if there's ways of thinking of things they've helped you to form - not necessarily beliefs or opinions, but ways of breaking things down, of looking at things head-first, or even ways of putting yourself first and being heard that you've picked up - it may be saying to take the good parts of that and salvage them for yourself. Or, a very different take on it is that it may be saying that you need to keep making yourself heard with them. Don't let them talk over you or play on your emotions to get what they want from you; use your head first, and do what you think will be best for you, not what will temporarily keep you from feeling bad. (To be honestly, this is the interpretation I lean towards based on how you discuss things, and the influence of the Five of Cups, but the other is something to consider if anything jumps to mind.)
Let Go Of:Four of Wands. This may be hard to hear, and I'm sorry if I'm stepping outside my bounds a little bit, but: the Four of Wands is about family unity, happiness, stability and comfort in the home - things that it is completely normal and natural to want to have with your parents, but that you don't get from yours. I think the message here is that, if there's any part of you that's still holding on to the hope that one day, your parents will turn around and be what you want them to be - will understand the things they don't get, and be completely supportive of the places where you differ from them - then you need to try and accept that it's unlikely it will ever happen. You don't have to cut them out entirely, but know what you can and can't get from them.
no subject
Keep: Knight of Swords. There's a few ways this could go, especially in re: parents, considering the Knights often stand in as an adolescent/young adult phase; but whatever those things are, they are heavily logic-based rather than creative- or emotion-based. Are there things that you find they actually help you with when you talk it out with them? Because if so, this might be telling you that you can still go to them for those conversations. Alternately, if there's ways of thinking of things they've helped you to form - not necessarily beliefs or opinions, but ways of breaking things down, of looking at things head-first, or even ways of putting yourself first and being heard that you've picked up - it may be saying to take the good parts of that and salvage them for yourself.
Or, a very different take on it is that it may be saying that you need to keep making yourself heard with them. Don't let them talk over you or play on your emotions to get what they want from you; use your head first, and do what you think will be best for you, not what will temporarily keep you from feeling bad. (To be honestly, this is the interpretation I lean towards based on how you discuss things, and the influence of the Five of Cups, but the other is something to consider if anything jumps to mind.)
Let Go Of: Four of Wands. This may be hard to hear, and I'm sorry if I'm stepping outside my bounds a little bit, but: the Four of Wands is about family unity, happiness, stability and comfort in the home - things that it is completely normal and natural to want to have with your parents, but that you don't get from yours. I think the message here is that, if there's any part of you that's still holding on to the hope that one day, your parents will turn around and be what you want them to be - will understand the things they don't get, and be completely supportive of the places where you differ from them - then you need to try and accept that it's unlikely it will ever happen. You don't have to cut them out entirely, but know what you can and can't get from them.